And it is a Sunday talk with brief mention of the person. Even in person there is not enough interaction, a lot of attendees go for old times week and the reception. Zoom makes it worse.
I would not have anything if I could. Given that a family needs closure a open buffet, maybe drinks, done by a caterer and my choice of music, or at least not the usual kingdom malady ditty.
The best I have been to were a methodist, Presbyterian, and catholic, complete with piper.
If you remember the Jameson " Dear brother" it had a nice sentiment if the crowd is able bodied